The one thing I work on every day

I thought I'd share the one thing I’ve been working on. This is something I would recommend for those seeking to heal themselves and extend the healing to others.

That is to not lie, but to live in truth.

This is about not lying to myself. Each day, I make countless decisions – to do or not do, to say or not say. Whenever possible, I check in with myself before making a decision, usually with my heart, and other times with different parts of my body. I make sure that everybody in me feels happy with my yes or no.

There can be negotiation between my mind’s voice and my heart. Sometimes I feel reluctant, anxious or fearful, especially when the decision is something that matters most to me. If I feel something, it’s actually a good sign. I pause and allow myself to feel it out.

I’m trying to notice my inner voice. If I make a decision against myself, it upsets me and feels uncomfortable throughout my body. My breathing changes, so do my blood pressure, nervous system, and hormonal balance. We often lie out of necessity. It means to suppress your own needs and it can be habitual. The more lies, the more discomfort and imbalance I have to live with. The results? Not good so let's not say.

This isn't as easy as it may sound. We are programmed to follow social conditioning throughout our entire lives, most of which we are unaware of. We have also been “guided” by our own egos, creating lies to ourselves and others to cover up our shortcomings. Due to this conditioning from both society and the ego, most people are unaware of what they might be feeling inside, and therefore unaware of the very fact that they are lying to themselves and others. They unknowingly live in discrepancy, which then becomes habitual.

I grew up with a ton of social and cultural conditioning, plus traumas from this lifetime and many past lives that add twists to the game. Every day, I learn to listen to myself more closely. Compared to how I was in my childhood through my 20s, I now feel much better in my body. My mind is clearer. With absolutely nothing to back up my point, I have my calm and assurance about this moment and the future. That’s not to say I’m always 100% healthy. It means that I bounce back quickly, and I know I will.

Because I have a closer relationship with myself, I have a low tolerance for lies within me. The lies and imbalance I used to put up with before are no longer tolerable. That helps me pick up signs of my own imbalance so that I can treat it before it causes more trouble.

This process will require courage but I promise you if you practice it, you’ll feel better. When you feel better, your body changes. And your relationships with people, money, work, and other aspects of your life will follow, even your future karmas. Wink wink!

One piece of advice if you want to practice this. Stay in your own lane. Leave others alone. There are people who lie for all kinds of reasons. This work is about you and your peace. They have their own path and karmas to watch over them, so you can relax and stay focused on yours.